Have you ever wondered why some people view life like their glass is half full whereas others view it like their glass is half empty? Some people remain positive when life’s challenges happen while others collapse in a heap sobbing “why me!” or “It’s not fair!”
How we view our life is very much down to the beliefs we have that are created by life experiences of ourselves and others from our childhood onwards and these beliefs are added to every day as we move through life. We look for evidence to support these beliefs and as soon as we find it, then it cements that belief even more strongly in our mind.
These beliefs about the world, people and life in general are, for the most part, invisible to us and can be quite limiting. They govern the way we think and feel about situations and experiences and they help to formulate how we choose to react to any given situation.
For example if we have the belief that we are not good enough at something then if a mistake happens we will take that as evidence that of course we are not good enough which will reinforce the belief and erode our self esteem bit by bit. It may be that someone in a position of authority in our life once told us that we were not good enough and we believed them even though there may be no basis of truth in this belief at all. Childhood experiences, culture, media, teachers and peers all play a part in shaping our beliefs about our self and play a part in how good or bad we feel about our self.
These beliefs are not irreversible and they can, in fact, be changed. However, we cannot change what we don’t recognise. The good news is that there are ways to know that our beliefs may not be serving us to our best interests.
If you are feeling unhappy about an area of your life or that you are not living up to your greatest potential in your relationships it might be a change of thinking that will enable you to turn it around and enjoy a life that is meaningful and has purpose and leaves you feeling inspired.